• southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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    1 month ago

    Obviously fake and gay as fuck.

    However, there’s a lot of men that have never felt safe enough to do that with anyone. As we need it, badly, sometimes.

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        Feeling lonely sucks, but man, whenever I’m listening to some people talk about past relationships they’ve been in, I end up feeling happy it hasn’t happened yet.

        I blame my parents. They have such an amazing mutually respectful, supportive and loving marriage that it has set an impossible standard for me to realize.

        I wish media depicted more healthy relationships.

        Half of people don’t seem to even have an idea of what mundane everyday loving behaviour actually looks like. And the other half does know, but fetishise unhealthy bullshit. (TBH I do too, but I want to engage in it playfully, not full on I will now proceed to straight up destroy you emotionally that I’ve run into with some people. )

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          I wish media depicted more healthy relationships.

          And when they do they often portray them as effortless “found my soulmate” kind of relationships which is not how the real world works. Even if you have an amazing partner you need to put in effort to be an amazing partner to them yourself.

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            1 month ago

            The fairy tale love affairs of fictional people hardly ever linger on the “mundane everyday loving behaviour” that I consider core to a functioning relationship.

            I literally put that crap in the trash right along with the depictions of dysfunctional relationships in media.

            Depictions of happy relationships, are not automatically depictions of healthy relationships.

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          As a level 1 autistic man, I’m a magnet for toxic women. It’s like they hunt for guys like me. It takes me a really long time around a woman before I drop my guard.

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              If we’re using food as an example, pick which mushroom is the toxic one to avoid

              A)

              2326

              B)

              2327

              One of them will kill you. Choose wisely.

              (My point is that toxic women can often mask as nontoxic for quite some time, much like you can’t just tell by looking at these mushrooms which will kill you, you can’t always tell by looking at women which are toxic either. Sure the Aminita Muscara may be identifiable and so would any woman with glaring toxicity, but sneaky ones lije these are afoot too, and much like other abusive relationships frog, boiling water, yadda yadda you’ve heard that bit before.)