Weird that so many people are being so downvoted for saying that conversation is a healthy thing and “excuse me” is an option.
I think it’s because people see it as implying that the fact that one can say “excuse me” implies that it’s therefore OK to be obnoxiously oblivious in public. I could be wrong, but I think that’s what is going on.
exactly, it shouldn’t have to require asking for you to be courteous. You should just be courteous, unprompted. If you want to have a conversation that’s great, just kindly move off to the side
I have no problems saying excuse me in a loud clear voice and blasting right through the center of those conversations. Being a performer at the local Renaissance festival for 30 years teaches you how to blow right through crowds with people in the way.
I live for these awkward moments:
• Standing in the middle of the aisle? “Excuse me! Pardon me! Thaaaank yeeeeeoouuuu!”
• Not going on a green light because you’re looking down at your glowing crotch? Insta-long-honk
• You and your friend are blocking a doorway while chatting? hand on shoulder “Pardon me, young man! Appreesheeyateyah!”
Always wear a smile ☺️
It’s blessed to see people having a nice chat in public.
ikr it’s a grocery store, not an Amazon warehouse.
It’s been so long…
since i asked them quitely if i could get past them please
Praise Satan for grocery delivery and pickup. No more memorizing a store or searching for an hour for that one little thing. No more women getting creeped out for no other reason than you’re a man in a grocery store. As if, beach - no one wants to fuck you.
Store associates (and their little stock search devices) exist so you don’t have to memorize the store or search for an hour. Just ask them a question, that’s literally
theiredit: our job.I feel like theres more to the story when you say ‘women getting creeped out’
No kidding. If you think you’re creeping out women by being “a man in a grocery store” there’s something off about either your behaviour or your perception of the world.
Nah man, not in my parts. Women shop, men hunt. I don’t play that way.
It’s totally fine to talk in the store… Also why do you care about their kids. Just ask them to step aside if they’re in your way. They’re rude if they don’t accommodate you then, but otherwise this seems fine??
This is borderline boomer humor. “THE OL LADY FLAPPING HER MOUTH AGAIN AND BLOCKING EVERYONE AT THE STORE!”
Oh no! People socializing in public, better grab a gun.
Is it really so bad? Are you really that bitter and fed up? Don’t you want somebody to love, you better find somebody to love.
This is a pretty bitter and antisocial meme. God forbid that people enjoy a normal social life and live in a community where they have the opportunity to encounter people they care about and connect with them. Do you really prefer an impersonal and anonymous public life?
You’re totally right, that makes me feel so much better about having to wait idly for the next 19 minutes rather than get my shopping done. They’re not in my way, they’re connecting! I should try to connect with them, too!
Wow, they left. Why don’t they want to connect anymore?
Such a weird take. Just say excuse me or I need to get through. Very easy. People aren’t mind readers and they aren’t purposely trying to make your life harder.
People aren’t mind readers and they aren’t purposely trying to make your life harder.
Oh, now I get it. They just don’t even notice or acknowledge the existence of other people unless someone reminds them that such mythical beings exist.
Yeah, you’re right, I’m much more sympathetic to them now. They’re not mean, they’re just amazingly self-centered and oblivious!
It’s interesting that you see someone having a talk and not being a 100 % aware of their surroundings at that moment as “self-centred”. Believing that everyone all the time should be aware of you and move out of the way for you in a hurry so you aren’t inconvenienced for even a second also comes off as quite self-centred.
It’s not just me. If I was literally the only other person in the store, sure, I could understand that, they thought they were alone, they weren’t expecting to encounter anyone else.
How the fuck do you just stop being aware of an entire seething mass of other humans flowing around you?
Hey man if you want to read every interaction in the worst possible light that’s on you. I think most people aren’t some narcissistic machine invented to inflict maximum social damage to poor little 6’5" guys.
Hey man if you want to read every interaction in the worst possible light that’s on you.
Please suggest to me a better way to read an interaction in which someone in a very crowded public place just happens to forget that the possibility exists that another human might also need to get down that aisle. “Oopsie doodle! I forgot I was surrounded by a hundred people who would really rather get this chore done as fast as possible! Again! Silly me!”
Give me a charitable interpretation of that person who doesn’t take even a split second to consider anyone else in their environment without having to be verbally admonished.
For someone who expects constant awareness for other people you are incredibly un-aware and unfriendly about other people.
Yes, I am incredibly unfriendly when I’m trying to get my shit done. I want to be out of that place as fast as fucking possible. I don’t want to linger, I don’t want to chat, and I sure as fuck have never in my life been so distracted that a hundred other moving, talking people just vanished completely from my awareness. Is that some kind of ADHD thing? Some manifestation of executive dysfunction, like always being late and never letting anyone else talk in a conversation if they can’t actively shout over you?
“Sometimes I get really excited when I see a friend and don’t realize I’m blocking the way.” That’s how people think. No malice. I hope this helps you see another way to read a slight inconvenience instead of Ultra Gigachad Malice Narcissist Blocker 5000.
What mental disorder does this fall into?
This is totally bouncing off of me. How can a person, in a public space, surrounded at all times by other people, just forget they exist for any amount of time, for any reason? They’re fucking everywhere. They’re breathing, they’re talking, their cart wheels are squeaking, the footsteps from their rubber-soled shoes are echoing off the hard tile floors, how do your senses just stop registering any of that?
Astounding number of fucked up basement dwellers on Lemmy I guess
+1 for the “Excuse Me” Gang here
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