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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • Happens a lot honestly. I gave some basic bros the finger the other day for it and just started them down. This was just in a supermarket. I usually frankly ask if they’re gonna fucking say something, but it wears you down. They always act surprised and back down, but the damage is done. I’m resilient and am used to being laughed at for my appearance, but it’s fucking awful for a lot of young people who haven’t and shouldn’t have to develop a thick skin. I’ve suffered a bunch of transphobia this week, from supposed allies. I choose not to engage with those people anymore. Allies are often mocked within the trans and gender non conforming community for how often their good will is misplaced. It’s better that people try of course.

    There’s no way you can tell us not to listen either, that doesn’t work. We all know transphobes are sick incels and terfs with bitterly shit lives and that more people love us than hate us, but experiencing it first hand sucks.
















  • I like how they describe south gippsland as close knit. It’s super white, parochial and backward. Yarram while I was there had an art mural phase where a guy, heesco of Mongolian heritage painted a whole load of colonial white men doing farm / colonialist things. One woman and one first nations among about twenty murals. It was fantastic in its execution and economically developed the town, but it reinforced how stuck in the 1960s the whole are is.

    Also - I had big wild mushrooms growing in my front yard down there at around this time of year. People would collect them, apparently they’re a delicacy. I cooked one and it smelled like greasy dirt. Too easy to mistake them honestly for poisonous ones unless you really know what you’re doing.




  • This is true, but I have almost no experience in dealing with female emotions, a noticeable cycle and the daily stresses of being misgendered, laughed at. I’m starting to hate the straight world. So many people say they’re allies, but they really don’t get it. Pronouns are a good start but most people ultimately won’t try too hard. Which is fair enough, everyone has their own shit going on. Lots of gays and cis queers don’t get it either and a lot of trans people gatekeep it and pick at others, generally projecting their own insecurities or expressing their envy toward the fact I’ve never shied away from indulging my femininity and they became toxic males to mask their own internalised transphobia.

    My baseline happiness is a lot better than a year ago and I am making a lot of good choices now, due to yes, life experience and because I finally feel like I own my body.