Happens a lot honestly. I gave some basic bros the finger the other day for it and just started them down. This was just in a supermarket. I usually frankly ask if they’re gonna fucking say something, but it wears you down. They always act surprised and back down, but the damage is done. I’m resilient and am used to being laughed at for my appearance, but it’s fucking awful for a lot of young people who haven’t and shouldn’t have to develop a thick skin. I’ve suffered a bunch of transphobia this week, from supposed allies. I choose not to engage with those people anymore. Allies are often mocked within the trans and gender non conforming community for how often their good will is misplaced. It’s better that people try of course.
There’s no way you can tell us not to listen either, that doesn’t work. We all know transphobes are sick incels and terfs with bitterly shit lives and that more people love us than hate us, but experiencing it first hand sucks.
Happens a lot honestly. I gave some basic bros the finger the other day for it and just started them down. This was just in a supermarket. I usually frankly ask if they’re gonna fucking say something, but it wears you down. They always act surprised and back down, but the damage is done. I’m resilient and am used to being laughed at for my appearance, but it’s fucking awful for a lot of young people who haven’t and shouldn’t have to develop a thick skin. I’ve suffered a bunch of transphobia this week, from supposed allies. I choose not to engage with those people anymore. Allies are often mocked within the trans and gender non conforming community for how often their good will is misplaced. It’s better that people try of course.
There’s no way you can tell us not to listen either, that doesn’t work. We all know transphobes are sick incels and terfs with bitterly shit lives and that more people love us than hate us, but experiencing it first hand sucks.
I read somewhere that negative events and words have 20 times the impact on our brain/emotions than positive events.
So when shit happens to me I tell myself the people that did it are not that important. It’s hard and horrible tho.
Big big hugs.
I have no idea if they were terfs. I suspect that the intolerance was in part ethnicity based.
There’s some truth in that. I’ve never forgotten certain things that has happened when I was bullied as a kid and it still stings and weighs me down.
Positive events related to that subject haven’t stuck with me at all.