• Azzu@lemm.ee
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    3 days ago

    What have we learned? Anon is boring and wearing soft shoes.

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    2 days ago

    I like to say ‘knock knock’ to get someone’s attention, seems to be a little less starting than a hand on the shoulder.

  • nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    try burping and then saying “oh fuck yeah that’s good” as you approach before you get too close. this way they know you’re coming and they know what you’ll smell like

  • lurch (he/him)@sh.itjust.works
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    I have this too. It’s when you move too silent. I just start conversations by saying DO NOT BE AFRAID with the voice in their head. Can recommend.

  • WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    I have the opposite problem—I’m a strong impression making motherfucker. Strangers consistently approach me to say “you look like [insert famous person].” Acquaintances tell me “I never forgot you.”

    And yet, nobody keeps in touch without a lot of effort on my part. I wish I knew how to transition my “I remember you” power into an “I want to be closer to you” power.

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      I am like this and do not understand it. Literally the other day a FedEx guy remembered me because he was my brother’s friend, another guy said he remembered me from 2nd grade. Neither of them at all familiar to me, and this happens regularly. I could never be a spy. It’s not looks, I’m average in looks. This is not a small town either.

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    IDK, since my soul was collected people seem to unconsciously avoid me, and eye contact that lasts for a second would seem long, if he can describe having a conversation I suspect it’s something else.

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    Ooor, someone had to “survive” their family’s bullshit and being unseen was the best way to do it. Then it became so ingrained in said someone’s existential fingerprint, that they’re now a ninja without even realising it.

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      You don’t need some tragic family background to be soulless creature wearing human costume.

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        Yeah I’m like this and it’s not really a trauma thing for me. I’m just autistic and ADHD which basically means I take advice too seriously and I have a bad habit of getting into someone’s field of view or in their way by accident. As a result of being advised to be less visible every time I got in someone’s view, I accidentally became invisible. It’s something I’ve been working on lately actually and I’ve noticed I scare people less often since I started thinking about it

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        You don’t need to assume that it isn’t a tragic familial background, either. Or any other sort of trauma/condition which would push one to close off. Throwing the “soulless” label aroud willy-nilly is just an extension of abusing the “narcissist” moniker. It prohibits any nuance and facilitates unjustified suspicion.

        Yes, there are sociopaths who can be considered soulless. But just because one is odd does not intrinsically mean one is soulless. There’s a plethora of other potential reasons.

        Plus, don’t forget, oddity is in the eye of the beholder in the first place. My odd may be completely different than your odd.

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          Yeah trowing around soulless label is horrible abuse in a joke post with a screenshot from 4chan.

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    Approach where they can see you in their line of vision but not directly. Approach at a 45 degree angle.

  • xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    i have this attribute… i always figured it was because im on the scary side of tall….
    but i also have a thing where at restaurants, the server frequently forgets my order… they’ll get everyone else at the table, but when the food comes, mine isn’t there….
    it’s happened so many times i avoid any place with a waiter/waitress….