• ϻеƌųʂɑ@sh.itjust.works
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    1 month ago

    You doing things for you is fine.

    It’s when other people need to change their behaviors that it becomes a problem.

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      1 month ago

      Sure I agree with that, but how is that implied by ‘a man likes to feel like a man’?

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        1 month ago

        The post shows a woman talking about how she was told her strong personality could make men insecure.

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          No it doesn’t. It shows a woman imagining things that weren’t said, which is then responded to with an anecdote.

          edit: Yeah I guess I’m wrong here. The second post does talk about that. Still, I don’t think ‘A man likes to feel like a man’ implies anyone needs to do anything to accommodate.

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        how is that implied by ‘a man likes to feel like a man’?

        What’s the context that you’re imagining this topic coming up? Because from my perspective, as a man, if someone said this to me about someone else I’d assume that I’m being asked to come up with some made up work, so that some junior guy on my team, or some dude in my social group who is feeling down, can feel more useful.

        Which I might or might not accommodate, but it’s kinda patronizing and would effectively have the opposite effect in building up my respect for that man.

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          I’m not imagining any context, I am taking the statement at face value. I am a man, and I like to behave in a way that makes me feel like it. Like mentioned elsewhere in this thread, that means feeling useful, it means being relied upon by others, it means honouring the responsibilities I have towards others.