The only male doctor at my ob/gyn was visibly angry when I told him my experience getting the IUD. He said, “The women in this practice don’t give anesthetic and it makes me furious with them.” Way to be a decent human in a sea of assholes, dude.
This is my experience too, ironically. Lmao. One woman I even chose for her compassionate care awards. I never saw her again. I still generally seek out women doctors for other things.
I’m a woman and my first IUD insertion really didn’t hurt me very much. Uncomfortable, but quick and not too bad.
But when my friends complained about the pain during theirs, I believed them. Because we are all different people with wildly different bodies. I have empathy.
It’s not a difficult concept, but I think a lot of people struggle with it. “It was fine for me so anyone who complaints is making it up!”
Anyway, when I went to get my IUD replaced, the second insertion was absolute hell, so now I really get it. But I didn’t need to go through it myself to believe people when they say they experience pain. There’s so much evidence out there indicating that women experience pain. Is it really so hard to just believe the evidence?
It could also be related to how your cervix changes over your cycle, but that baffles me because surely gynecologists would know that and try to time things correctly if it made things easier for women.
Do they time it based on your cycle at all?
Close to ovulation, your cervix goes really soft and opens up, close to your period it changes position, goes really firm and closes.
I haven’t gotten an IUD so I have no personal experience with the process, but I imagine that trying to put an object through the cervix into the uterus would be best done at ovulation when your cervix is open. And probably extremely difficult and painful to try to do when your cervix is shut tight.
I’m just some single middle aged loser, and even i don’t understand why people can’t accept that everyone is different and anyone can have drastically different experiences for the seemingly same things.
40 years later i still cannot understand other people. I hate living in this world… And relatively im lucky
The only male doctor at my ob/gyn was visibly angry when I told him my experience getting the IUD. He said, “The women in this practice don’t give anesthetic and it makes me furious with them.” Way to be a decent human in a sea of assholes, dude.
This is my experience too, ironically. Lmao. One woman I even chose for her compassionate care awards. I never saw her again. I still generally seek out women doctors for other things.
My guess is that women who have had their pain dismissed for their entire lives fall into the trap of internalizing the dismissal.
This is actually a pretty good thought.
I can see why male doctors would be ignorant, but wtf is the excuse of female doctors here?
“I had to suffer through it and I’m fine”
I’m a woman and my first IUD insertion really didn’t hurt me very much. Uncomfortable, but quick and not too bad.
But when my friends complained about the pain during theirs, I believed them. Because we are all different people with wildly different bodies. I have empathy.
It’s not a difficult concept, but I think a lot of people struggle with it. “It was fine for me so anyone who complaints is making it up!”
Anyway, when I went to get my IUD replaced, the second insertion was absolute hell, so now I really get it. But I didn’t need to go through it myself to believe people when they say they experience pain. There’s so much evidence out there indicating that women experience pain. Is it really so hard to just believe the evidence?
It could also be related to how your cervix changes over your cycle, but that baffles me because surely gynecologists would know that and try to time things correctly if it made things easier for women.
Do they time it based on your cycle at all?
Close to ovulation, your cervix goes really soft and opens up, close to your period it changes position, goes really firm and closes.
I haven’t gotten an IUD so I have no personal experience with the process, but I imagine that trying to put an object through the cervix into the uterus would be best done at ovulation when your cervix is open. And probably extremely difficult and painful to try to do when your cervix is shut tight.
No, they time it when they have appointments open.
I’m just some single middle aged loser, and even i don’t understand why people can’t accept that everyone is different and anyone can have drastically different experiences for the seemingly same things.
40 years later i still cannot understand other people. I hate living in this world… And relatively im lucky